Problem with a neighbour, what would you do ?

[Tommytom]

Ok, now bear with me on this.

I live in a small town, everyone nearly knows everyone kinda place.

Now in the next street, is a mid-40's female, and there's always been a rumor in the pub about her "men habits" to put it in a forum friendly phrase.

So, 2 weeks ago, it was brought up that she was infact an escort/prositute that worked from home, being pub talk, i laughed it off, until my wife mentioned it too.

One of her friends had been given a web address, and lo and behold, she advertises on a website offering "services" etc..

Now, normally i wouldn't bat an eyelid, live and let live and all that...

But, it's a small housing scheme we're in, lots of young familys, and the street she lives in, is directly opposite the local Primary school.

Wife and i are in 2 minds what to do.

Do we leave it as is ?

Or

Contact the council/Police, i'm not sure what they could do anyway.

Everyone has to earn a living somehow, but does the local community really need men that use these services, turning up outside schools etc...

It's hardly crime of the century, but i feel it's not right.

Any advice from anyone on here please ?

Thanks

Tom.

[yegnold]

Bit black and white this, but If it wasn't obvious to you before you were told, is it really an issue?

[Babs]

I don't think it's actually illegal.

However, whether it's right or not is another thing.

I wouldn't be happy. I also own a megaphone. But that's just me

[Phil-E]

:wrthless:

Trust you!

I say leave it be. If it hasn't bothered you up to now then what's the issue?!

As long as she keeps it behind closed doors then I really don't see an issue?!

Phil

Edited 2 November, 2009 by philje123
i can't bloody spell!

[Babs]

Get a brown tourist information-style sign made up, put it across the road from her house, pointing at her house, that just says "Whore".

['daiking']

Kick her back door in and put her out on the street where she belongs.

But really, you only suspect she's doing something you don't really like but you're not even sure its illegal? What's there to report?

[Babs]

She might charge more for back-door action...

Also, while prostitution is not illegal, and if she's the only one in the house she's not running a brothel (which is illegal), it could be considered anti-social.

[wootton59]

Where do you live and Ill happily let you know if the rumours are true! LOL

[Bodge]

Get a brown tourist information-style sign made up, put it across the road from her house, pointing at her house, that just says "Whore".

hahaha

Depends how hot she is really. If she's a smokin' hot 21yr old then fine, but if she's a crusty old leather-bound-lover then tell the kids she's a witch and let them throw stones at her till she scuttles off into the woods.

On a more serious note! If she doesn't adversely affect your way of life in any way then I wouldn't waste the time thinking about it. If she or her clients do, then make the council erect a CCTV camera on her street. Claim it's for the school security. Bet that would soon deter all the dirty old gits that visit her!

[dou91e]

any phone numbers ?????? lol

[Irvtheswerv]

Well anti-social behaviour orders are imposed on people (after a lengthy process) who cause harassment, alarm or distress to other people.

ASBO's can only be applied for by the Police and councils. The Police tend to try to get them imposed on persistent criminals, for example an ASBO might ban a persistent shoplifter from entering a town centre and all self service shops within a force area.

Most councils have anti-social behaviour teams (or a Community Safety team/partnership, do a search on your local council website for one of these), and they would normally consider prostitution a form of anti-social behaviour. In these circumstances, given that she lives overlooking a local school, you could argue that the council has a duty of care to the school children, and is therefore duty-bound to investigate any complaint about her actions.

[moley]

If she & her business is not causing any problems, like lots of cars parked everywhere, loud music, shouting and fighting in the street in the early hours etc. I would be inclined to leave well alone.

After all if she's earning a living and keeps herself to herself so to speak it's better than some benefit scrounger pi$$ing it up all day & night.

Does she offer a discount to the locals?

[Phil-E]

given that she lives overlooking a local school, you could argue that the council has a duty of care to the school children, and is therefore duty-bound to investigate any complaint about her actions.

I don't really get that logic. Just because she live opposite a school doesn't mean she is causing any harm to the school kids. All the kids see is a man walking in to a house across the street... and coming out 10 (or so :P) minutes later.

As long as she has her curtains shut then whats the problem.

People get up to all sorts behind closed doors which has no ill effect on anyone living near by. I'm not saying that I get up to all sorts behind close doors by the way

[faboka vrs]

Lmao at some of these comments.

Is she a tax payer? If not I wonder if you could tip of the social? Maybe they could catch her on the job lol

[Irvtheswerv]

I don't really get that logic. Just because she live opposite a school doesn't mean she is causing any harm to the school kids. All the kids see is a man walking in to a house across the street... and coming out 10 (or so :P) minutes later.

As long as she has her curtains shut then whats the problem.

The security and safety of each school is the responsibility of the the Headteacher, the council, and the local Police. The security/safety assessment of each school does not stop at the school gate, if it did there would be no school crossings or lollipop men/ladies.

I'm trying to give him a solution to the problem. And with that in mind I don't see your logic in suggesting that ignoring the prostitute that works opposite the school gates is going to help him.

[Phil-E]

I'm not saying to ignore the problem altogether but I don't really see that it's an issue. If she has gone more or less un-noticed by her neighbours then she obviously isn't causing a problem.

It's just a fact of life. Prositution has been around for many many years and the children will find about it sooner or later. They are probably too young to figure it out anyway.

It's no different than having someone living near by that is promiscuous and has many partners round all the time really.

What they do in their own home is their business so long as it doesn't affect others and I can't see how this would.

Yes she might be a bit of a Whore but so what... that's her choice!

[yegnold]

I agree Phil

[Irvtheswerv]

I agree that what goes on in your own home is your own business etc etc. Just like what goes on tour stays on tour.

But there's always going to be a slight difference us on this one though, because I've been a copper and from my experience prostitution never exists on its own, and it increases the likelihood of other types of criminality being introduced into the mix, in close proximity to the school.

[Phil-E]

But there's always going to be a slight difference us on this one though, because I've been a copper and from my experience prostitution never exists on its own, and it increases the likelihood of other types of criminality being introduced into the mix, in close proximity to the school.

Yup! I can totally see your point there. Suppose you have seen the side that of this sort of thing that most of us havn't! I guess it would be a matter of keeping a check on what's going on and if there were signs of other "activities" by people of questionable character then I think there would need to be something done about it.

I have known of women of a similar calibur living near me when I was young which my friends and I find highly amusing but there was never anything else that seemed to go on there and she had a very nice well kept house and she herself seemed quite "normal" and nice!

Phil

[kelling]

does she do threesomes?

[auroan]

Leave her be. Not very fair busy bodying when she's doing no harm.

And you'll probably find the kinda of person who uses an escort (who charge upwards of £250 and hour) isn't the kind of person you would be worrying about around your neighbourhood.

[Phil-E]

Leave her be. Not very fair busy bodying when she's doing no harm.

And you'll probably find the kinda of person who uses an escort (who charge upwards of £250 and hour) isn't the kind of person you would be worrying about around your neighbourhood.

And how would you know the going rate then Danny?! :eek: :P

[Babs]

Is she likely to be paying income tax on her work? Or is she more than likely appearing at a Job Centre once a fortnight?

[Babs]

And how would you know the going rate then Danny?! :eek: :P

He's Danielle on the weekends.

[auroan]

LOL, just check out the escort sites.

Part of my "move house" checklist.

Crime rates, Council tax amount, services, chav trouble spots, dubious characters to avoid, etc etc