Current parenting standards

[newskoda]

I am here to talk about how kids and their parents ruin things for everyone else.Not content with them having a monopoly on the months July to September, it seems there's still a lot of straglers intent on carrying on their "summers" even mid way into September. last week I went on a nature walk with about 15 other people. Joining us was a member of national trust. Unfortunately for me and the wife, the walk was ruined by about 3-4 unruly loud children and there "lack of responsiblity" parents. These ******s are probably claiming benefits also or are "self employed"

Where we live, a family have moved into our road, bringing with them their nasty little tykes. Every damn evening they are on the trapoline, screaming away until 7pm. In my day (i'm 37), we were never allowed to do that. Seems to me parents these days have no idea on how to raise their kids and their arrogance/ignorance and disregard for other people seem to be rubbing off on their children. Perhaps they think its not their responsibility and their schools should do it for them?
parents like this need to be shot.

 

I'm curious how many of you have kids and are raising them properly ?

rant over

[Updown789]

7pm? Absolutely kitten shocking! What about the neighbours up at 7am on a sunday mowing the lawn? Think you need a reality check tbh mate

[Aspman]

I'm teaching mine to jump on trampolines and shout at you

 

Sometimes kids are out of order, sometimes neighbours are intolerant. Kids can be noisy fact of life. There needs to be give and take on both sides.

You do write as a person with no kids. Having them does change your perspective.

[Coops]

Just because the kids are noisy doesn't necessarily mean they claim benefits does it?

Summer breaks and some half terms are staggered across the country. My kids went back on 30th August whereas some of my colleagues kids didn't return until 8th September. It varies by region.

[cnc]

Where we live, a family have moved into our road, bringing with them their nasty little tykes. Every damn evening they are on the trapoline, screaming away until 7pm. In my day (i'm 37), we were never allowed to do that. Seems to me parents these days have no idea on how to raise their kids and their arrogance/ignorance and disregard for other people seem to be rubbing off on their children. Perhaps they think its not their responsibility and their schools should do it for them?

parents like this need to be shot.

 

I'm curious how many of you have kids and are raising them properly ?

rant over

I know exactly what you mean.

 

Up the road from us next to our friends house the owners have moved out and someone is now renting it. The people who have moved in put up one of these large trampolines, which is no problem in itself. But, the kids are out on it until past dark screaming and shouting non stop for hours at a time. If you walk past their house the chances are you can smell they are smoking pot, the parents I assume but who knows, maybe the kids do as well, and the kids also lean out of their bedroom windows shouting to their friends in the back garden at all hours. If they aren't on their trampoline they are on their bicycles racing around the road and pavement at great speed - how they haven't been hit by a car coming around the corner yet I don't know. Luckily we live in a dead end road and you wouldn't be in more than second gear for the corner so fairly slow but even so you wouldn't expect to find a kid coming at you in the middle of the road. The neighbour purchased a nice new BMW 320d M Sport and when the alarm went off he raced outside to see a nasty gash right down one panel where the kids had caught it with their handlebars. Upon confronting his new neighbours he was told exactly where to go - cost him nearly £400 to get it sorted.. The whole situation has upset our friends so much they have now put their house up for sale and hope to move as soon as they can.

There is a kids playground at the bottom of our road but for some reason they don't seem to like using it. Everyone who lives in the road, only about thirty houses in total, pays a quarterly fee for upkeep of the public grounds, verges, trees, playground etc so it's always kept very nicely - a bit like the US Home Owners Association (HOA) system. We also have a management committee made up of residents of the road but it has no real power, but I think a polite letter from the committee might be on it's way to the offending house not that I think it will make any difference.

I have no problem with kids playing or generally enjoying life in whatever way they like, just as long as it doesn't upset/offend anyone else, within reason.

Many of the other houses in our road have young kids but no one ever has the slightest bit of trouble from them in any way, you do hear them playing but not screaming and shouting.

Some people bring their kids up to respect other people, and unfortunately some don't. What is reasonable in cases like this will never be agreed upon as everyone will have their own feelings and limits.

So, newskoda, I know exactly where you are coming from.

[Rustynuts]

I am here to talk about how kids and their parents ruin things for everyone else.Not content with them having a monopoly on the months July to September, it seems there's still a lot of straglers intent on carrying on their "summers" even mid way into September. last week I went on a nature walk with about 15 other people. Joining us was a member of national trust. Unfortunately for me and the wife, the walk was ruined by about 3-4 unruly loud children and there "lack of responsiblity" parents. These ******s are probably claiming benefits also or are "self employed"

 

I'm self employed. What does that mean?

[CFBScout]

7pm is not really late is it, however I do agree that screaming and shouting so it disturbs everyone around is just not on. A lot of parents don't seem to worry or care about their kid's behaviour affecting others. There's too much of the "I want to so I will" attitude these days.

 

I let my kids play in the garden on the trampoline, much better than stuck indoors on an X Box but I do not let them scream, shout or play loud music as I try to be considerate to my neighbours.

 

Society in general is not in a great place, many people do what they want as they feel it's 'their right', respect for others is diminishing fast and it's not just kids, it starts with the adults. Take a look at aggressive driving for a start, it all begins with the adults and cascades down to the offspring.

[tubbytommy]

I blame those polvakians...coming here taking our jobs.

Edited 14 September, 2016 by tubbytommy

[GentleGiant]

I know exactly what you mean.

 

Up the road from us next to our friends house the owners have moved out and someone is now renting it. The people who have moved in put up one of these large trampolines, which is no problem in itself. But, the kids are out on it until past dark screaming and shouting non stop for hours at a time. If you walk past their house the chances are you can smell they are smoking pot, the parents I assume but who knows, maybe the kids do as well, and the kids also lean out of their bedroom windows shouting to their friends in the back garden at all hours. If they aren't on their trampoline they are on their bicycles racing around the road and pavement at great speed - how they haven't been hit by a car coming around the corner yet I don't know. Luckily we live in a dead end road and you wouldn't be in more than second gear for the corner so fairly slow but even so you wouldn't expect to find a kid coming at you in the middle of the road. The neighbour purchased a nice new BMW 320d M Sport and when the alarm went off he raced outside to see a nasty gash right down one panel where the kids had caught it with their handlebars. Upon confronting his new neighbours he was told exactly where to go - cost him nearly £400 to get it sorted.. The whole situation has upset our friends so much they have now put their house up for sale and hope to move as soon as they can.

There is a kids playground at the bottom of our road but for some reason they don't seem to like using it. Everyone who lives in the road, only about thirty houses in total, pays a quarterly fee for upkeep of the public grounds, verges, trees, playground etc so it's always kept very nicely - a bit like the US Home Owners Association (HOA) system. We also have a management committee made up of residents of the road but it has no real power, but I think a polite letter from the committee might be on it's way to the offending house not that I think it will make any difference.

I have no problem with kids playing or generally enjoying life in whatever way they like, just as long as it doesn't upset/offend anyone else, within reason.

Many of the other houses in our road have young kids but no one ever has the slightest bit of trouble from them in any way, you do hear them playing but not screaming and shouting.

Some people bring their kids up to respect other people, and unfortunately some don't. What is reasonable in cases like this will never be agreed upon as everyone will have their own feelings and limits.

So, newskoda, I know exactly where you are coming from.

 

 

You need to speak to the property owner; if they are behaving like this, they are also probably wrecking the house; had this with a friend and a set of new rental neighbours last year, a nice quiet cul-de-sack turned into benefits street by a single set of renteés. Everyone who could sold up and moved out, my friends took a £10k hit.

[RapidPaul]

Hmmmm. Not sure if you're trolling or not.

My wife and I are both very responsible individuals and we raise our son as diligently as we can. I have a steady job, we have a mortgage and we are not scroungers. But our son has autism. Much of the time he's fine and he can be very sweet if the mood takes him. But sometimes he behaves like a wild beast whose sole purpose on earth is to torment us.

Now I'm well aware that it might upset genteel folk such as yourself if you have to witness him having a full blown autistic meltdown in a shop of other public place. Believe me when I say we try to avoid such situations. Sometimes, however, we have to take him to places inhabited by people such as your good selves as we have minimal support (although my wife's mum and dad are great, they can't always cope with him). It really helps when we get disapproving looks from passers by, or tutting or even vile comments. Thankfully not everyone is like that and there are some lovely, understanding people out there.

Quite frankly, I think you need to give your head a wobble.

[Ootohere]

Blame the current parents parents (ie the grand parents, guardians or child minders / nannies) because they were the ones that brought up their children either too strictly or not strictly enough.

Blame it on the 1960's. 1970's and on. Blame it on the various governments that never brought back in the birch for being a child who should be seen and never heard.

Edited 14 September, 2016 by GoneOffSKi

[StevesTruck]

I'm self employed. What does that mean?

 

Likewise.

[mac11irl]

I think what you have is an issue with a certain type of parent rather than all parents and all kids... tarring all with the same brush is the same as saying all immigrants are terrorists living on state benefits... which isnt true either...

[999pooch]

Likewise.

I'm interested too, not sure why being self employed has any bearing on unruly kids?? Edited 14 September, 2016 by 999pooch

[GentleGiant]

I'm interested too, not sure why being self employed has any bearing on unruly kids??

 

Because you obviously live in a caravan and drive a transit van!!!!

 

(JOKE ALERT!!)

 

I think in this context he is thinking of those who hire 9 y/os to break into houses for them, give them a fiver for the £1,000 TV they haul out, and then sell it on Ebay for drug money (or something similar).

 

I should add, my daughter has a giant trampoline (bought by Grandma), sometimes bounces on it until AFTER 7pm and occasionally squeals with delight. As I am currently "not employed", that must make me a TERRIBLE parent.

[999pooch]

Because you obviously live in a caravan and drive a transit van!!!!

(JOKE ALERT!!)

I think in this context he is thinking of those who hire 9 y/os to break into houses for them, give them a fiver for the £1,000 TV they haul out, and then sell it on Ebay for drug money (or something similar).

I should add, my daughter has a giant trampoline (bought by Grandma), sometimes bounces on it until AFTER 7pm and occasionally squeals with delight. As I am currently "not employed", that must make me a TERRIBLE parent.

A bit too obtuse for me :/

[RapidPaul]

As I am currently "not employed", that must make me a TERRIBLE parent.

Not only that, according to the OP, you deserve to be shot

[malcster]

[GentleGiant]

 

I think the heat and humidity is cooking our noodles.

 

Or Moon Cake, depending on if you have any.

 

In all seriousness, I have spent a large part of the day and evening sat buck-naked in front of a tower fan.

[newskoda]

I'm teaching mine to jump on trampolines and shout at you

 

Sometimes kids are out of order, sometimes neighbours are intolerant. Kids can be noisy fact of life. There needs to be give and take on both sides.

You do write as a person with no kids. Having them does change your perspective.

Yes when you have kids you become selfish and think the sun shines out of your a***

[newskoda]

Blame the current parents parents (ie the grand parents, guardians or child minders / nannies) because they were the ones that brought up their children either too strictly or not strictly enough.

Blame it on the 1960's. 1970's and on. Blame it on the various governments that never brought back in the birch for being a child who should be seen and never heard.

Kids were brought up better in the 60s, 70s and early 80s.

parents these days have done a volte face and become way too leniant

[newskoda]

I blame those polvakians...coming here taking our jobs.

A lot of Polish and romanian girls come to england to be escorts, which means they don't have to pay any taxes, are probably claiming benefits while charging £150 per hr. They very rarely offer the services advertised.

[Rustynuts]

Kids were brought up better in the 60s, 70s and early 80s.

parents these days have done a volte face and become way too leniant

I'm unsure how you know kids were brought up better before you were born. :p

[newskoda]

I'd like to see these arrogant Brits try that in some country where guns are permitted.

 

7pm is not really late is it, however I do agree that screaming and shouting so it disturbs everyone around is just not on. A lot of parents don't seem to worry or care about their kid's behaviour affecting others. There's too much of the "I want to so I will" attitude these days.

 

I let my kids play in the garden on the trampoline, much better than stuck indoors on an X Box but I do not let them scream, shout or play loud music as I try to be considerate to my neighbours.

 

Society in general is not in a great place, many people do what they want as they feel it's 'their right', respect for others is diminishing fast and it's not just kids, it starts with the adults. Take a look at aggressive driving for a start, it all begins with the adults and cascades down to the offspring.

[newskoda]

7pm? Absolutely kitten shocking! What about the neighbours up at 7am on a sunday mowing the lawn? Think you need a reality check tbh mate

I would rather listen to a lawn mower than some noisy kids streaming like they are being assaulted.