This above is one of the most bothering things on modern cars ... most components are as crappy as they can happily get away with, but some reason it seems to be a consensus among the industry that certain connectors must be made with a overengineed approach that makes easy work an impossibile task!
Either they seem glued in place, or the locking tab is positioned OPPOSITE of the side you are reaching (this one happens to be one my favs), or the locking tab is unclear why in some is "push inwards then pull" in another ones is "pull outwards and pull out" ... may the designers be cursed forever!
My absolute preferred one, the locking in between the two connectors end being SO strong that the tab that holds the assy in place slips out or breaks, therefore the entire combo gets to hang loose somewhere ... if you are VERY lucky they fall more into some innard where extra sweating and a balanced alternating lithany and cursing seems the only way to get around ....
I used to think whoever designed these things was an imbecil. Now I just think is someone who models in a CAD with minimal training and motivation, zero engineering motivation (for various reasons, be cost cutting, ecology, etc.), and especially who has never turned a scredriver in his/hers/its (now we got 'X' genders also) miserable life, considers getting hands dirty an abominable relic of the past, but especially, thinks that just because is a "newer" approach, is always "better".
I wish them a failure in whatever crap they drive in the middle of a stormy rainy cold night, where they can learn the true extent of their actions .... 😝